How to Overcome Your Nerves and Start a Great Networking Conversation
Walking into a networking event can be daunting, especially when you’re nervous or new. The dual anxieties of simply showing up and then figuring out what to say can feel paralyzing. But with the right approach, you can navigate any room with confidence.
This guide provides a practical plan to not only get you comfortably through the door but also to equip you with easy conversation starters that genuinely work.
Your First Step: Getting Confidently in the Room
Often, the biggest hurdle is just walking in. Your primary goal is to show up, and here’s how to make that first step feel less overwhelming.
- Commit to Attending: You’ve taken the first step and booked your spot. Now, schedule it in your calendar as a non-negotiable appointment. Committing to yourself is the first win.
- Visualise Success: Before you get out of the car, take a moment for a quick pep talk. Remind yourself why you’re there and visualise having a friendly, positive conversation. This simple mental rehearsal can make a huge difference.
- Find a Friendly Face: Once inside, scan the room for someone you can relate to. This could be another person standing alone, someone who offers a warm smile, or even a familiar face you know.
- Be the Person You’d Want to Meet: You’re likely not the only person feeling a bit lost. Look for someone else who seems uncomfortable and make it your goal to help them feel included. A simple “It’s my first time here, mind if I join you?” can be a welcome relief for both of you.
- Join a Group: If you’re feeling bold, find a group you can approach. You can listen to the conversation for a moment and then introduce yourself to several people at once when there’s a natural pause.
You’re in! That’s a huge achievement. Now, let’s make the most of it by starting some meaningful conversations.
Easy Conversation Starters for Any Event
The secret to a great networking conversation is having a few opening lines ready. This gives you the confidence to break the ice. Here are some ideas, broken down into easy-to-remember categories.
Be Willing to Share (It Builds Connection)
Showing a little vulnerability makes you more approachable and builds common ground. It signals to others that it’s a safe space to connect.
- “Hi, I’m [Your Name], a VA for [Niche Area]. This is my first time at this event.”
- “I don’t know many people here, so I wanted to come and introduce myself. I’m [Name], owner of [Business Name].”
- “As we’re sitting next to each other, I thought it was only polite to say hello! I’m [Your Name].”
- “I’m trying to meet new people tonight, and we haven’t met yet. Hi, I’m [Your Name]!”
Get Other People Talking (People Love to Share Their Story)
Most people are happy to talk about themselves. Asking open-ended questions shows you are genuinely interested in them.
- “What brought you to this event today?”
- “It’s a great turnout! Have you been to one of these before?”
- “That’s a fascinating business. What’s the story behind how you got started?”
- “How do you know [The Event Host/A Mutual Contact]?”
Ask for Advice (It Shows Respect)
Everyone appreciates being seen as knowledgeable. Asking for a small piece of advice is a fantastic way to build rapport and compliment someone’s expertise.
- “You seem to know your way around these events! Do you have any advice for a networking newbie?”
- “I heard you talking about [Subject] earlier, and I’d love to hear more about your perspective.”
- “What would you say is the biggest lesson you’ve learned in your business so far?”
- “You seem very confident at these events. What’s your secret to making it look so effortless?”
Pay a Sincere Compliment (It Breaks the Ice)
A genuine compliment can instantly boost someone’s confidence and make them feel good. The key is to be specific and sincere—only say what you mean and keep it professional.
- “I love your [Professional item, e.g., briefcase, pin]. Where did you get it?”
- “You’re so passionate when you speak about your industry. It’s really inspiring.”
- “I couldn’t help but notice how great you are with people. Are you in sales?”
- “You seem very relaxed in this type of environment. Are you a coach?”
Common Pitfalls to Avoid
To make the best impression, try to steer clear of these common networking mistakes:
- The Hard Sell: Don’t launch into a sales pitch. Focus on connection first.
- Monopolising Time: Be mindful of how long you’ve been talking to one person, especially at a busy event. Allow them (and you) to mingle.
- Interrupting: Avoid breaking into a conversation abruptly. Wait for a natural pause before introducing yourself.
- Controversial Topics: Steer clear of sensitive subjects like politics unless you are certain it’s appropriate for the context.
How to Make a Graceful Exit
Knowing how to end a conversation is just as important as knowing how to start one. Have an exit strategy ready so you can move on politely.
- The Gracious Close: “I’ve really enjoyed talking with you. Can I grab your business card? I’d love to stay in touch.”
- The LinkedIn Transition: “I’d be interested to hear more about your work. Would you be open to connecting on LinkedIn?”
- The Action-Oriented Exit: “Well, I’m going to grab a drink before the next speaker starts. It was lovely to meet you.”
- The Introduction Hand-off: “Have you met [Another Attendee]? Let me introduce you. [Introduce them]. I’ll leave you two to chat. It was so nice meeting you!”
By using this advice, you can transform networking from a source of anxiety into a genuine opportunity. You now have a plan to get into the room and the tools to start great conversations once you’re there!
If you’re looking to network with other VAs, why not check out our very own VA Membership? It’s an online resource for VAs, offering you the support and help you need to grow your VA business. VA Membership is an awesome resource for VAs, no matter where you’re based – and who knows, you may even find other VAs in your area who can buddy up with you for future in-person networking events!
